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What have I done to you!?

You was just opposite to other when the winter was comming, but as I wrote, I was just joking. Don't take what I wrote too serious

Leelene wrote:What teases me is ignorance of politics among the people, people treating me badly because I am a teetotaller, that students in Sweden are concidered more then poor and don't get more money each month and that there is no licence that you have to get before you end up a parent!

Love Leelene

Why do you get teased for not drinking?????

I'm considered a blessing among my mates,because I'm the teetotaller which means that they dont have to worry about taxis or the risk of any of them drinkdriving,so as a goodwill gesture when we go out they buy all my Softdrinks for me!!! so it means i can go out and not spend a penny(unless we go for meals of course)

Nothing worng with being teetotal i have been for the last 12 years......I can't see how anyone can drink Alcohol simply as a pleasure and say that they actually savour the taste,the only reason people drink is to be social or get pissed!!!


Why do you think there should be a licence to become a parent???

....Personally i think thats a ridiculous idea,you can't teach someone how to be a parent.parenthood is not an institution where by there are set rules to do it correctly,its something that you can only begin to understand once you are a parent,and even then there is no set way to do things,you just try to nuture your child in the best way you can
I'm a father and no matter what you read in childcare books nothing will ever prepare you for the task,but its something that shouldn't be taken lightly so in some respects i agree that it should be something that is considered before sowing your seeds so to speak,but i think there should be more education into Teenage pregnancies
there should be some sort of vaccination of young women that would inoculate them until they are of an adult age, and mentally capable of taking responsibility of a child..only then could the inoculation be reversed to allow them to bear children






Things that annoy me.....People who constantly complain about the tax increases of tobacco and then keep on buying it,sure I know its an addiction,but if your hard up why the "Beep" do you pay excessive amounts for the Privilge,My Mother in law always complains about being picked on by the government when it comes to smokers,yet she still pays over £4 a pack of 20 and smokes 60 a day!!so thats £12 a day to have the privilige of smoking(£84 per week/£4368 per year...........then she has the cheek to call me insane for buying a synthesizer in excess of £1500.....

When we worked out how much she had spent on tobacco in her lifetime,she could have paid My mortgage????

Equin(00)xe wrote:

Leelene wrote:What teases me is ignorance of politics among the people, people treating me badly because I am a teetotaller, that students in Sweden are concidered more then poor and don't get more money each month and that there is no licence that you have to get before you end up a parent!

Love Leelene

Why do you get teased for not drinking?????

Because it's very unusual for a Swede not to drink.

Hihihihih! Just an internal Scandinavian joke!

Im not allergic to anything Just lucky, I guess..

What annoys me these days:

Hot weather, stupid annoying kids, too high prices for everything etc.

GeeJee wrote:Are you allergic to pollen too?

yes sir

Hi again.

About me being teetotal. In sweden up to 90% of the people are drinking alcohol and even if you just go out in the bar people are more or less expecting you to drink. So if I tell them that I don't drink I usually get really really strange looking eyes on me. And then most people can start to act childish and tell me that I am not welcome in their company due to me drinking water or coke.

About the parenting licence. I think that you defenetly need some education to be able to be better parents. And I hope that this will help children growing up in families with trouble better. I also hope for someone to be a spookesman/woman for some families so that the children never get to be treated in another way then what is healty.

Let me take one example of a childhood. It is mine. My mother have been through a really tough childhood with probobly a real deep depression and hard time taking care of herself. My father is multi disabled and can get depressed too. So I've got a very bad situation from the start. If someone was there along the line to see me I think that my life crisis that I have been through so many years would have gone away faster and my university time would not be in danger now. Even if I now am going to try to stand on my own legs and help myself through the crisis.

Love Leelene

Leelene wrote:Hi again.

About me being teetotal. In sweden up to 90% of the people are drinking alcohol and even if you just go out in the bar people are more or less expecting you to drink. So if I tell them that I don't drink I usually get really really strange looking eyes on me. And then most people can start to act childish and tell me that I am not welcome in their company due to me drinking water or coke.

About the parenting licence. I think that you defenetly need some education to be able to be better parents. And I hope that this will help children growing up in families with trouble better. I also hope for someone to be a spookesman/woman for some families so that the children never get to be treated in another way then what is healty.

Let me take one example of a childhood. It is mine. My mother have been through a really tough childhood with probobly a real deep depression and hard time taking care of herself. My father is multi disabled and can get depressed too. So I've got a very bad situation from the start. If someone was there along the line to see me I think that my life crisis that I have been through so many years would have gone away faster and my university time would not be in danger now. Even if I now am going to try to stand on my own legs and help myself through the crisis.

Love Leelene

And maybe perhaps if someone was there to guide you and lend a hand,you may not have been so singleminded and independent,i never had a father figure for the majority of my life i do not know my real biological father and will probably never see him in my lifetime i was beaten up and bullied by my stepfather for most of my young childhood,does that mean that i will fail as a parent,because i didnt have that Father/son bond???and does that mean I'm so angry to have been robbed of my innocence of childhood to take my frustrations out on my son!!!!!

No it will make me more determined to succeed at giving my son the love and affection i so sorely missed,you can blame your past for your present afflictions or situation but that only builds up the depression and blows your self esteem,i find people who blame others for their lack of realism in life are only failures because they have no determination due to deep rooted fears given to them in childhoosd,i come from a broken home, i was bullied at school and beat up on many occasions by so called friends,i have been considered weird because of my musical tastes,but yet have succeeded in following my ambitions and studied to a higher education,i have very little in terms of relationships with my mother and stepfather nowadays,although i dont blame this on them,its more a sheer determination on my half to be independent.and the fact i cant repair the damage thats been done although i know how to,i have moved on and built my life on not letting it destroy mine,i dont want to repeat those patterns in my children

I could have blamed any failings on my life due to my past,but its total bullshit,you either learn and build from it and move on or you let it destroy you

If you have low self esteem its because your not looking onwards to find the cause,you are in control of your own life,no-one else you can read all the books and articles on how to make the changes but only you can do that,i found that studying Psychology and sociology helped me to overcome my fears so much so i past with a Degree,it was a sort of self help therapy that help build my confidence,once i understood the true underlinings of what shapes peoples feelings and how you can break the chains of family history it helped me deal with my own lack of confidence and bitterness


You can't blame your parents lack of upbringing on lack of education,because until your put in a situation you dont know how things will turn out,so educating your parents doesnt mean that you would have had a far better life,the only things you need is love,if that is not there then everything else is damaged,from then on.

I have friends who have children and spend most of the time in work,probably seeing their children for a couple of hours a week,they work all week long just to put the child into Nursery care,and wonder why the child shows no respect when they do come to spend time with them,a child needs to know thats its loved from the onset,Love and affection cannot be replaced by someone elses care..

Society has turned out many lost and bewildered children who inevitably turn out to be depressed and seek attention as they grow ,many turn out to become evil people,respect has gone and no-one cares for anyone anymore,contempt is bred from and ealry age and is deeprooted until death,unless the person confronts it in later years
Its absolutely pathetic when these people blame there actions on a poor upbringing,its a total joke,anyone can be excused from crime as long as your claim a jagged background its total shit.

I know a guy who had all the love he could have wanted from his parents,nice home,plenty of materialistic things never went without,was a perfect mate later on became hooked on heroine and commited suicide...
wheres his education!!!!4 years at uni with myself and a failed business later!!!turned to drugs for help and ended up taking his life...hardly see how he could blame lack of Love.

protection education and moral judgement can only be passed on through love not replaced by materialistic things or lack of attention,looking for a vessel to vent your frustration is not commiting a crime its lack of respect for yourself

As for the drinking thing!!!!!


Makes me laugh when i hear that most europeans Judge the English as being drunken yobs!

arogant people who run a shop or company. People who are in the service market but are unwilling to provide help to a customer. This really pisses me off.

I hope they someday need help and are refused themselves

Examples of bad companies: Kenton Electronics UK, EMS UK, Luthman music equipment general agency SWEDEN.

What I mean with childhood is that sometimes we need a person when we become parent to just make sure that we don't love our kids to death by our "kindness from silliness". There is so many people out there who don't give rules to the young child when they are growing up, how can you learn self respect when you didn't learn to respekt even the smallest things when you were very little? Just to have a little guide that would give a family a few days wuld help!

As for me I am still trying to not put the blame on my parents all the time. But I can't handle the fact that no one saw the very alone little family on the farm outside the town with practically very few friends and very few relatives. You see my mother and father lack siblings and so do I.

I will never do crime. I will try to make it up to my self for what I have lost. I will try to build up a real self esteem and such. And only gods/godess knows how hard I try. And I do believe that I will make it. I am 100% sure.

Love Leelene

Leelene wrote:What I mean with childhood is that sometimes we need a person when we become parent to just make sure that we don't love our kids to death by our "kindness from silliness". There is so many people out there who don't give rules to the young child when they are growing up, how can you learn self respect when you didn't learn to respekt even the smallest things when you were very little? Just to have a little guide that would give a family a few days wuld help!

As for me I am still trying to not put the blame on my parents all the time. But I can't handle the fact that no one saw the very alone little family on the farm outside the town with practically very few friends and very few relatives. You see my mother and father lack siblings and so do I.

I will never do crime. I will try to make it up to my self for what I have lost. I will try to build up a real self esteem and such. And only gods/godess knows how hard I try. And I do believe that I will make it. I am 100% sure.

Love Leelene

respect is only learnt from being given it in the first place,you can never love your children enough,but loving also means allowing them to make their own mistakes and learn from it,if you wrap a child in cotton wool they will learn nothing but contempt.
As for blaming your parents,you can pass the blame to society for their lack of social position,I cant comment on their individual circumstances,but the only way to become socially active is to be socially active yourself,being isolated from public life will only contribute to a recluse lifestyle,your parents obviously chose that path,and being that way has passed onto you i suspect,but you can break that chain.dont be dogged into thinking that its your birthright

What annoys me is this hot weather!

Same as yesterday.

the fact the radio broadcast of la defense is pitched down one note, which is instantly audible to me and freaking annoys me very much. might as well pitch it back up one day

AnDrOiD wrote:What annoys me is this hot weather!

Same as yesterday.

One point I get about you hate against the summer is that my head was a big pain yesterday.

Det har du bare godt af. Hihihiiiiihh!